Last night my boyfriend Tobias proposed, and this morning I said yes. Not that I had any plan of refusing him, I just had to get used to the idea of saying yes. (I think he was glad there was a snow storm last night though – he just might have been a little worried that I’d run away during the night, haha.) So, there it is; I’m engaged. Wow. How did that happen?? A month ago I didn’t even have a boyfriend (we’ve been dating for almost four weeks), and for the first time I was happy being single, and had no plans on a relationship for a while. And yeah, this might be a good time to think “those crazy mormons” 😉
It’s not as bad as it sounds though – we’ve both known of each other and each others families since we were children (one of my first memories are of his parents visiting me in the hospital as a little girl), we just never thought of the other in this way before now. I’m not very good at expressing my feelings, so let it be enough to say that as surprised as I am, I’m also very, very happy.
Marrying early is the pattern we’ve got from our parents; my Dad proposed to my Mum a little less then a month after they first met, and three months later they were married. My fiancés parents’ story is similar. Actually, marrying early is very common in the church. I can’t see a problem with it – most people nowadays seem get intimate and some move in together much sooner than we got engaged, which from where I’m standing is much more odd. Because of our faith, chastity is important to us, so we choose to marry.
This afternoon we went ring shopping. In Sweden the couple exchange rings when getting engaged, and so, it’s as common to buy rings together as being presented with one at the proposal. I must say I prefer to have had the chance to choose – I wanted to make sure I got a ring I liked, one that “felt like me”. The one I chose is very simple, an unadorned gold band (again in keeping with Swedish tradition), just like I’ve always wanted. It will take a few days for us to get them engraved, but when we do get them I will, of course, post pictures.
And you all know what this means: I must design and make a wedding dress for myself! How I’ll manage that with my still present tiredness (and school), I’m not sure, but it’ll work out somehow. My biggest problem right now is how I want it to look (Tobias laughed when I said that)….. I’ve got two or three ideas that I can’t really choose between….. I must say, that it’s a very pleasant problem to have 🙂